It's an obvious fact that in porn, ejaculation is often faked.

When it is, like most things in pornography, they go over the top, showing a lot of fluid, rather than the more variant amounts we see in real life with women who ejaculate.

Porn actresses can easily fake ejaculation by just drinking a whole lot of water and then urinating.

Not every woman who ejaculates will have giant gushes of fluid: sometimes it's just a little spurt, sometimes so small a partner may not even know it happened.

Some women who ejaculate may never have a big "gush," while others often will.

This is one of those areas -- like many when it comes to women's sexuality, alas -- where the research is still ongoing, and where we can't draw too many conclusions just yet.

There remain some disagreements between researchers and the research done so far has been seriously tiny. Some people will posit that female ejaculation is just urinating.

We know enough to know that's probably not true, or at least not always or entirely true.

While it appears that female ejaculation is a function of your paraurethral glands (like the Skene's glands) which comes through the urethra -- the same place we urinate -- and the fluid is often a lot like urine, enough research has been done which finds otherwise or stands in conflict to that so we can pretty safely say it isn't urine.

It's possible some elements of urine are in the mix, or that sometimes, women ejaculating are actually urinating. Some folks call those paraurethral glands "the female prostate."

Even if we someday have it proven that it is, in fact urine, that should only be so meaningful: if the women urinating are enjoying it, okay with it and it feels good, from a standpoint of sexuality and sexual pleasure, that discovery would not rock the planet.

For the most part, women who ejaculate will due so due to extensive and targeted G-spot stimulus, internal and external clitoral stimulus, or -- and most commonly -- a combination of the two.

The G-spot (something also still often disputed by some researchers) is an area of the vagina located not far from the opening, inside the vaginal canal on the anterior wall: the side of it towards your belly, not your back.

For many women, the best stimulus of that area usually will happen with toys or fingers, but some women, with some partners, find a penis can provide that stimulation as well.

Not all women enjoy G-spot stimulation or like it all the time, and some even dislike it (same goes with some women and clitoral stimulus), so your mileage may vary.

Some women also find pressure just around the vaginal opening gets them there, while for others, pressure on the mons is part of the deal.

When you're feeling very highly aroused during those kinds of sexual stimulation, and/or feeling close to orgasm or having one, if you relax and bear down the way we all do when we're pushing urine out, that's generally how ejaculation happens if it's going to.

Sometimes, it'll happen without doing that at all, but usually, that's how it goes.

If you have a full bladder (which you shouldn't: just as far as comfort and avoiding UTIs, you always want to urinate before any sex), it is possible to urinate when doing this, so in terms of your own comfort level with your body fluids, that's something to bear in mind.

Too, like I said, not all women are comfortable with this, and because it can sometimes be a good deal of fluid, that's something to bear in mind when it comes to where you're having sex.

If you don't want to sleep in a big wet spot, you want to put some towels down first.

It's an obvious fact that in porn, ejaculation is often faked.

When it is, like most things in pornography, they go over the top, showing a lot of fluid, rather than the more variant amounts we see in real life with women who ejaculate.

Porn actresses can easily fake ejaculation by just drinking a whole lot of water and then urinating.

Not every woman who ejaculates will have giant gushes of fluid: sometimes it's just a little spurt, sometimes so small a partner may not even know it happened. Some women who ejaculate may never have a big "gush," while others often will.

To simplify this down to its lowest common denominator, what's thought to date is that we have a bladder and we have paraurethral glands, both of which can and often do contain fluids.

When we put pressure on those areas or the areas surrounding them (both due to how arousal expands things in and around our genitals, and due to actual pressure put by fingers, hands or anything else during sex), that fluid sometimes squirts out.

It's no big mystery, really, nor the eighth wonder of the world: the same thing happens when we squeeze a water balloon or a sponge.

Why can some woman ejaculate while others cannot? Again, this is something we don't yet have a definitive answer for.

As of right now, it seems like a minority of women ejaculate, even though it's thought most have that capability. Some sage theories about that discrepancy are that:

a) not all women have/get the kind of sexual stimulus they need to do so,

b) not all women feel comfortable doing so or purposefully hold back when they're going to because it feels like they're going to pee,

c) not all women are getting sexually aroused enough to get there,

d) the size of these glands in women vary, so women with smaller glands may be limited in doing so

and/or e) more women ejaculate than they think, it's just in smaller amounts that often go unnoticed. More

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